Wedding Gift Etiquette

Wedding Gift

A bit unsure of proper wedding gift etiquette? Are cash gifts good modern sense or seriously tacky? We've got the answers. Just click a question below. And if you have questions that aren't here, contact us.


Are we expected to have a wedding gift list? What if we don't want gifts?

Simply put, a gift list is a courtesy to your guests. Your list makes it easier for them to pick out something they know you'll love.

If you're the couple that would rather not receive gifts at all, you'll find that requesting "no gifts" is tougher than you think. Again, most guests want to honor your special occasion by giving something. That's why a Honeyfund is often a welcome idea among guests. Guests can give you something you'll really use and enjoy, and you'll avoid accumulating more stuff.

Is asking for cash gifts or money gifts acceptable etiquette?

By and large, the answer is "Yes!" Even though asking for cash has, in the past, been against traditional etiquette, honeymoon registries and cash registries are much more common today.

And, since Honeyfund allows guests to purchase a piece of your honeymoon, guests have the feeling they are contributing toward something exciting that you really want and need, as opposed to the impersonal gift of strict cash.

Finally, we recommend you consider the culture and values of your family and guests. Cash gifts have long been the norm in many cultures. Look at your guest list and think about who would and wouldn't be open to the idea. And remember, you can always have both! Create a store list for those who would prefer to give you something more conventional. You can link to it from your Honeyfund page.

Is it proper etiquette to announce our gift list in our wedding invitation?

According to Brides Magazine UK, "a small card that politely mentions where you have a gift list, should guests feel like they like to use it, is often welcome." Honeyfund provides a printable insert providing the website address of your Honeyfund page, which you can also link to your other gift lists.


What about a wedding website?

A wedding website is a nice way to direct guests to information about your big day, your gift lists, hotel information and more. You may choose to include a printed card with your wedding website address in your invitations, and leave out the gift list card. Again, those who wish to use your gift list will find the information they need.

How should we spread the word about our Honeyfund gift list?

See the previous questions for how to handle gift list information in your wedding invitation. In addition, you can use Honeyfund to e-mail guests a link to your wedding website or your Honeyfund page where they can learn more about your wedding and gift lists. We even give you a tactful suggestion for how to word your e-mail. Also, make sure your bridal party and close family members are helping to spread the word and answer questions about your Honeyfund gift list. Word of mouth can be very effective.

Do we still need a traditional wedding gift list?

We recommend you create at least one conventional gift list for the traditionalists among your guests.This way, your guests can choose from a wide range of things they know you'll like.

And there's one more benefit of a traditional list: Many stores entice you to "complete" your list after your wedding by offering you up to 20 per cent off remaining items. So if there is anything you've been eyeing for your home, put it on your wedding list. If no one purchases it, you can get it later at a discount.

Where can I get more info about wedding gift etiquette?

Here are some resources we found on the topic:

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